Have you experienced or experiencing a love hangover? Whether it was for one moment, one day, a few weeks, a few months or even a few years… we all have experienced this at least ONCE in our lifetime. What is a love hangover? It is holding onto an old/past love (e.g. person, memories, heartache (s) and etc.) that prevents a person to allow new love in or experience a fresh love experience (s). Old/past love does not have to result from a negative experience (bad break-up/divorce, being treated unfairly, or etc.). It can result from a loss of the loved one, amicable break-up (e.g. move, new career…) or etc.
Whatever the outcomes of your former love relationships, if you are holding on too tightly to a past person or idea. You may experience some unpleasant side effects of a love hangover. Some of these side effects include, but not limited to:
- Unable to maintain healthy relationship or obtain a new love relationship. Due to constantly comparing (whether aloud or in your mind) your former mate with a new/potential mate.
- Not allowing someone to get too close to you or getting to know someone else on a deeper level. Who may possibly by a great person for you, but, did not give it a chance to find out.
- Do you feel like you are stuck and unable to move on and think it seems “impossible” to find anyone else like your former love? This subtle mindset can repel love, rather than attract love, though deep down you yearn to be in a loving relationship with someone.
If you have experienced any of the following symptoms or the like, please take the time and check in with yourself to evaluate or re-evaluate your current condition. Below are a few recommendations that can help you recover from a love hangover.
HOW TO RECOVER FROM A LOVE HANGOVER
- If you have been experiencing a love hangover for year or more. You may want to consider seeking professional assistance (e.g. Love Coach, Counselor, or etc.). In order to move forward and experience something new in your life.
- Surround yourself with positive people/environment, read inspirational books, or etc. That will lighten up your mood/spirit that can give you a fresh new outlook on life. Begin to re-create a new love story.
- Begin to commit or re-commit to grow in self- love & self- care to nurture yourself, especially, if you neglected certain areas in your life. Begin to do the things that you love or haven’t done in a while. Give yourself PERMISSION to ENJOY LIFE!
The purpose of this topic is not to ignore, deny, or cherish any old/past love experience (s). Definitely acknowledge these love experiences (because they are a part of you), however, it only becomes an issue if it is interfering with your present or potential love life. If you loved once, you can love again by allowing yourself to experience the same love (or GREATER LOVE) and live in that love space. Hopefully, this increases your self-awareness in your love life to create more loving experiences in your life…