Aloha Beautiful People!I’m finally putting on my big girl panties🙊😂! I’m excited to announce my new show on BLAB called “Shana’s LOVE Lab” 🔬💕. My new show on BLAB is a great opportunity to look under the microscope to examine topics regarding SELF LOVE. I’ll showcase guests who are spreading the message of LOVE, promoting healthy relationships, and elevating consciousness. Which contributes to increasing the quality of life and LOVE! My first guest to kick off my show is Candace Thoth! She is my good friend/colleague and I want to introduce her beautiful heart & gifts to the world! Here’s a brief bio of her: Candace Thoth is the founder and CEO of Return to Aloha. She is also a Self-Love Ambassador and the Hawaii State Coordinator of the Love Foundation. Candace’s mission is to inspire people to create the life of their dreams through self-love and authenticity. As a coach and teacher, she helps individuals cultivate healthy relationships with themselves, live authentically, and rediscover their brilliance. Recently, Candace was a part of the movement that helped Global Love Day receive official recognition in Hawai’i, and she was featured on June Dillinger’s television show “It’s All About Love.” In her spare time, she is a nature and landscape photographer. To learn more about Candace please visit her website: http://www.returntoaloha.com & IG: @returntoaloha Show airs on August 12, 2016
Time: 2pm (HST)/5pm (PST)/8pm(EST)
Where: @ShanaLOVECoach on BLAB
Today’s Affirmation:“I Honor Myself by Speaking the TRUTH with LOVE”
Have you ever dreaded a conversation that was necessary? However, not all conversations carries the tone of “being the bearer of bad news”. This also pertains sharing exciting information or news (e.g. saying “I love you” to someone). Whether you want to share something that is exciting or uncomfortable, a bit of hesitation can be present when delivering your TRUTH.
In my experience, the challenges that I often encounter are more about HOW should I deliver my TRUTH, rather than expressing WHAT is my TRUTH.
Regardless if you have a challenging time telling your TRUTH (suppressing how you really feel); how to deliver the TRUTH (being tactful, without sugar coating); or receiving the TRUTH ( being in denial)
As cliché as it sounds, the TRUTH really does set you free. Not carrying around an emotional burden can be released by being truthful. I usually share with people, you have to be honest with yourself first, before you can be honest with someone else. At the end of the day, the TRUTH circles back to you.
What do you want? What do want in life? What do you what for yourself? what do you want in a relationship?
Oftentimes, people have a hard time being truthful with themselves, yet, which makes it more difficult to become vulnerable with someone. In order to grow in this area, the TRUTH begins with you.
– As long as you are sharing or expressing your TRUTH from a place of LOVE…that’s all you need.
– Telling or hearing the TRUTH can be painful in the moment, yet, it’s better than an lie.
– Embrace your authentic self it’s a way to honoring your truth.
– Telling the TRUTH can liberating, which can teach you to let go of fear, judgement, or rejection from others and yourself.
– Remember to let your TRUTH be accompanied with LOVE in every situation.
It can be emotionally draining to wear a mask to please other people at the expense of not living your authentic self. To live like someone else, living by other people’s expectation, or the constant comparison of yourself to others can be exhausting. This is not to say that we should not help people or go out of our way to make someone feel special. Also, I’m not talking about selfishness. We can still do those things without the cost of compromising ourselves. I believe that too often we burn out by over extending ourselves for others, whether it’s in a relationship, job, family, or etc.; while neglecting to nurture ourselves in the process.
- Why do you tend to live by other people expectations?
- Why not be who you were meant or created to be? Is it fear of rejection of not living the life that you want/desire?
- Do you tend to hold back or dim your light, because, you are afraid to stand out or shine?
We have the tendency to become resentful towards others when we feel like our efforts or love have gone unnoticed, and probably beat ourselves up for being such a giving person. Where is that resentment and self-defeating chatter coming from? Is it from the disappointment of not receiving the appreciation of others, because, you are living up to their expectation (s); and in return they are not meeting/ fulfilling your own expectation(s) that’s anticipated? It is my personal opinion, when a person decides to be and live their authentic self on a consistent basis, it may leave little room for resentment or disappointment from other people. Because, being authentic keeps you detached from other peoples’ expectation or opinion of you. By not allowing the other person to have power or control over you, is living in your POWER!
Tips For Living More Authentic!
- Develop healthier personal boundaries. This allows either parties or more to know where everyone stands, which will allow everyone to be on the same page.
- Be truthful with yourself! Before you can be honest with anyone else, you have to be honest with yourself first.
- Do not deny or suppress your feelings. Learn how to communicate how you feel openly and constructively. Use “I” statements, instead of “you” during conversations. For example, “‘I’ feel like…, instead of, ‘you’ make me feel…”
- In the same way you want someone to give you the freedom to embrace your authentic self, allow someone else the freedom to do the same.
The cost of not embracing your authentic self only shrinks the true self that continues to reinforce the false self. Your authenticity allows you to give freely from the heart without expecting anything in return. Which in turn, you are not attached to people’s actions or opinions that they have towards you. Because, you will begin to learn not to take things too personally, and allow the other person to express themselves regardless how they may perceive you. TRUE FREEDOM is embracing your authentic self! The more you live like this on a consistent basis; things, circumstance, or people that irritate or annoy will soon fade (or not have the same effect as it used to). Hopefully, by living your authentic self can be an opportunity for the others to begin to look at themselves and begin living their authentic self. My hope is that authenticity will become contiguous and it will free people up to live the life there are truly meant to live! I hope that you found this helpful and hopefully you will find the courage to begin expressing the authentic YOU!