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Day 21 (30 Days Of LOVE Affirmations ™ )

Today’s Affirmation: “I Am Filled with Joy, Abundance, and LOVE! “

Wow! I cannot believe that I’m more than halfway through with sharing these LOVE affirmations.  Despite the previous difficulties of uploading a few posts, I was still implementing them. My self-awareness of my words and thoughts has increased, which EMPOWERS me to SPEAK LIFE/LOVE to myself on a consistent basis.

It’s EMPOWERING, because, each day, each moment, and each thought… I have the POWER to CHOOSE how I want to show up in the world.  My hope is, that you are encouraged and EMPOWERED to do the same.

LOVE Nuggets

-When you experience moments of sadness, depression, or a low mood.  Tell yourself, ” I am filled with JOY!”

-When you experience moments of lack,scarcity,or “not enough”.  Tell yourself, ” I Am filled with ABUNDANCE” ; or ” I Am ABUNDANT!”

-When you experience moments of  fear, self-loathing, or loneliness.  Tell yourself, ” I Am Filled With LOVE!”

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How Can The Ache Of Loneliness Lead You To Love?

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 You may be wondering, how can an emotion that feels so unpleasant lead me to love?  Regardless of your marital status, whether you are married, divorced, single parent, widowed, coupled, or single.  Most of us have experienced loneliness in one form or another or currently experiencing it.  I want to give special attention to the single men and women reading this and those who coupled are welcomed to read on.  If you are a single person, you may have entertained the idea that entering a relationship maybe the “cure” to your loneliness. Or the ache can show up when you are surrounded by others couples; question from loved ones “why are you still single?”; or “when are you going to get ‘out there’ and start dating, again?”, or your self-limited mind chatter can be holding you hostage.  In addition, some married couples and those in long-term relationships can experience loneliness as well.  It’s possible that loneliness can exist within a romantic relationship.  How is that possible? You may be wondering.

Loneliness is not necessarily base on external factors; it’s an internal emotional response that signals us to look at something a bit closer.  Just like physical discomfort, it’s an indicator that something is requiring our attention to explore what is causing us pain or discomfort.  Sometimes, based on the severity of a physical discomfort we may choose to ignore it or go see a doctor/specialist to further examine the possible root cause of that discomfort.  Unfortunately, it’s not the same when we are dealing with our emotions.  Most of the times we have the tendency to suppress certain emotions, because, it feels so uncomfortable and very yucky (yes, I said yucky).  Instead, we may distract ourselves with other things to gain temporary relief.  But, then loneliness will begin to rear its ugly little head again.  Then we repeat the same cycle of feeling the uncomfortable emotions, suppressing the emotions, and seek temporary relief. What if that ache is pointing you to something that you have been ignoring that can lead you to the clues of the love that you truly desire?

As a single woman I know and understand the feelings/desires of wanting to be in a true meaningful romantic relationship.  Also, I could have been in a relationship already, but, I know what it means not to settle. There was a time when I thought I was destined to be single.  I don’t mean to come across as being single is a life sentence, lol.  But, that was becoming my mind-set at that particular time; and the possibility of remaining single seemed to be in my favor. At that time, I couldn’t see the possibility of being in a romantic relationship that I truly desired or the other option would be to settle in an unhappy relationship.  There were times, when the stings of loneliness felt heavier than others.

Thankfully, the more I grew in self-love those aches began to lessen.  The desire to be in a true meaningful romantic relationships seemed very possible, and, the anxiety around it faded away.  Also, the amazing side effects of self-love gave me a different perspective of love, relationships, and realize the infinite possibilities of my overall life.  Currently, I’m in a place in my life that I’m grateful for those aches of loneliness, because, it led me to a deeper self-discovery of myself and on the path of self-love.  If I had continued to ignore those aches, which, are signs that try to get our attention.  My life would probably sound like replays of sad sappy old love songs.  The aches of loneliness requires you [us] to take a deeper look at yourself and its asking you [us] to get real, raw, and honest about what we truly want and desire in your [our] life to see favorable results.

My challenge(s) for you, the next time when the ache of loneliness shows up in your life, do not shy away from it.

– What is that ache showing you or pointing to?

– What if that ache is helping you uncover the true beauty that already resides within you?

– When you go towards the ache, it begins to lose its power it has over your life.

Sometimes those aches can be used against you by keeping you in your comfort zone.  Because, you are always avoiding and not facing it.  The more you continue to bury yours emotions, the harder it can be to see new possibilities. Going towards the ache, is stepping out of your comfort zone that can lead you closer to the experience (s) that you desire.  I must admit that it takes a lot of courage to face the things that makes us uncomfortable, but, that is the only way to truly overcome fears. It is beautiful gift that is wrapped up in a hideous wrapping paper (I know, weird analogy).  Instead of treating your ache of loneliness as your arch-enemy, it can become your best ally in LOVE!

If you are ready to get out of your comfort zone to explore something new.  Please don’t hesitate to schedule a complimentary love assessment (30 mins) with me.

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VIVA LAS VEGAS!

Wow!  I had an awesome time in Las Vegas a few weeks ago.  My mentors hosted a Creative Love Spark event! It was a fun-filled weekend with single individuals who gained more clarity and a deeper understanding about love and relationships.  That weekend I was confronted with myself and I learned that I was running from myself.  Also, I learned areas in my life where I’m holding back; playing small; or playing it safe by not stepping into to my fullest potential.  Though this was something that I already know (consciously); it’s one of those things that you know what you need to do ,but, you don’t do it.  I felt like my back up against the wall and I was forced to look at certain things. There was no more hiding or running away from the things that I know I should be doing, and start doing! Oftentimes,it’s difficult to face our ugly truths and it requires courage to do so. I’m grateful for my breakthrough weekend, which I learned MORE about myself and gained a clearer vision in love, relationship, and my life.

In what ways have you been running or hiding from yourself?
Which areas in your life are you continuing to play small or playing it safe?
Have you ever had a dream/desire on the inside that is bursting to come out,but, sometimes you suppress that desire.  By the self-limited mind chatter; fears that creeps up in your thoughts; or memories of past failures can keep you paralyzed or in limbo from stepping into your greatness. Make a decision TODAY to think differently about your life and begin to live your highest potential!
This is a quote I saw at the Trump Hotel.
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MOTIVATIONAL MONDAY!

Don’t allow people’s perception of YOU interfere with your day ( and beyond). Keep focus,stay on your path, and continue to make steady progress! Be encouraged!

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INNER TRANSFORMATION

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“Life is a process of growing, outgrowing, and growing some more… In order to live fully, we are required to grow into our divine potential by outgrowing our thoughts of limitation”

~ Iyanla Vanzant (Book: One Day My Soul Just Opened Up)

Aloha Everyone!

I have been M.I.A from FB and my blog site for a few weeks.  I’ve been experiencing some inner transformation/ shifts and needed to take a “time out” to unplug to process these experiences.  I must say that I’m understanding being a love/life coaching more clearly and seeing the TRUE VALUE of the work that I do.  I’ve been having more clarity, understanding, and “aha” moments.  I’m coming to the realization that since the beginning of this year (2014) till the present, it seems like everything situation has been Divinely orchestrated ( in disguise).  Reflecting about earlier this year, I may have been “creating” my experiences by default (somewhat), but, as this year is coming to a close, I have become more aware of what is going on “in” me & around me.  I guess what I’m trying to say… that I am becoming more aware, not living by default or passively, and I am living more intentionally by growing in self-love.   I notice that I’m not as resistant, and more “go with the flow” in the sudden life changes or facing my love shadow.  These experiences or “aha” moments are stimulating my personal, spiritual growth, and I am loving it!

I embrace all these experiences and enjoying the process, even when it does not feel good at times. The uneasiness is just an indication that I’m growing.  I do feel that these outer and inner changes are just preparing me more for my work as a LOVE coach.  Lately, so many ideas and opportunities have presented itself to me.  I feel like 2015 is my “launch” or “kick off” year in every facet in my life. Though, some of the things that I hoped this year didn’t come into fruition, yet.  I know that I’m in preparation for the AMAZING things that are coming my way; and to make sure that I’m ready to RECEIVE ALL the good things that are in store.

Thank you for reading my thoughts out loud.  I felt compelled to share my current self-reflection. I hope this encourages or inspire someone in anyway. Whatever, you may be currently experiencing, just remember to trust the process. Be Encouraged!  🙂

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