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🎭The Mask You Wear 🎭

To mask or unmask… that is question🤔? The PERSONA is the mask that YOU wear. We ALL wear a 🎭 MASK 🎭, it’s our representative that people see and how they PERCEIVE us upon the initial encounter. Based on how YOU want others to perceive you, is the image you’ll PROJECT to the world. The PERSONA we take on is socially acceptable, it’s not something that in unpleasant. The truth is that we all wear a mask, because, it’s a necessity to socially navigate in our society. For some (including myself, initially) didn’t like the notion of that, because, this may imply being “fake”, “inauthentic”, “not being true to yourself”. However, as I examined further of the function of the PERSONA, it began to make more sense. Wearing a mask is not a bad thing per se, however, the difference lies between if a person is conscious vs. unconscious of the MASK they are wearing.   
What “difference lies between … conscious vs. unconscious”? If someone is unconscious (unaware) of the MASK they wear by default they may believe it’s their “true” identity; one who is conscious (Self-Aware) of the MASK they wear knows that it serves as a purpose and it’s not their “real” identity. I hope I didn’t lose you at this point, if so comment below. Hopefully, this makes sense with the aspects of conscious vs. unconscious regarding the PERSONA.

So… how does this relate to the work that I do you maybe wondering🤔?

When meeting someone for the first time our natural tendency is to put our “best foot forward” and making a great “first impression”. When we do this, it’s not being fake, we’re just showcasing or highlighting the best aspect of ourselves. This concept is displayed when going on a job interview or on a first day. As I mentioned previously, the PERSONA is socially acceptable and pleasant. However, if you keep perpetually living from this space to meet other people’s expectations to feel “accepted”, while, suppressing the REAL YOU just to show face. If you are not careful, living life on the surface may result in feelings emptiness, loneliness, boredom, resentment, or emotionally unfulfillment, or come across as “shallow”.

In addition, you maybe hesitant to let certain individuals (good intentions) to get to know you on a core level or get close to you, because, you maybe afraid that if they get to know the REAL YOU, they may not like you or reject you. Therefore, it’s easier to wear a mask to keep up the façade when you first met. Oftentimes, when this happens a person’s insecurities flares up and their SELF-SABOTAGING behaviours may unfold. Which may play out in a form of being deceitful (for self-perseverance), perform disappearing acts (stop call/text/contact) or other knee jerk reactions to keep themselves protected/guarded. These types of behaviours or logic seems twisted, however, it may serve a purpose to the individual. TRUST this is NOT an excuse for a person’s less than ideal actions, however, it’s brief insights of how (unconsciously) self-sabotage or holding yourself back can prevent you from experiencing a greater life & LOVE. Whether it’s with yourself and/or with someone else. Ideally, it’s easier to be authentic if surrounded by others who accepts & allows YOU to BE YOURSELF!

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What Do You ENVISION Your Love Life Looking Like in 2016?

  
Lets welcome the NEW YEAR with open arms and allow yourself to embrace NEW BEGINNING! This is usually the time we tend to self-reflect, and focus on transitions we want to make (e.g. considering a new career path, changes in relationship status, health & wellness goals, and etc.). It’s important for you to set intentions for how you want experience LOVE. 

As my gift to you, I have created a LOVE exercise that can be very beneficial for you. If you’re seeking clarity and you want to get unstuck and begin experiencing momentum in the area of love, it’s time to do something different. If this resonates with you, then I encourage you to download your copy of this LOVE exercise. This exercise will help you ENHANCE your LOVE LIFE and you can get a free call with me. This call is a brief session to explore, identify, and understand what may be keeping you from the love that you truly desire. If you are seeking clarity in the area of love, then this exercise is for you! Please retrieve (click on picture or FREE) your FREE copy of this LOVE exercise and to get clear about your LOVE life!

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Embrace Your Authentic Self! (BE YOURSELF!)

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It can be emotionally draining to wear a mask to please other people at the expense of not living your authentic self.  To live like someone else, living by other people’s expectation, or the constant comparison of yourself to others can be exhausting.  This is not to say that we should not help people or go out of our way to make someone feel special.  Also, I’m not talking about selfishness.  We can still do those things without the cost of compromising ourselves.  I believe that too often we burn out by over extending ourselves for others, whether it’s in a relationship, job, family, or etc.; while neglecting to nurture ourselves in the process.

WHY?!…

  • Why do you tend to live by other people expectations?
  • Why not be who you were meant or created to be?  Is it fear of rejection of not living the life that you want/desire? 
  • Do you tend to hold back or dim your light, because, you are afraid to stand out or shine?

We have the tendency to become resentful towards others when we feel like our efforts or love have gone unnoticed, and probably beat ourselves up for being such a giving person. Where is that resentment and self-defeating chatter coming from? Is it from the disappointment of not receiving the appreciation of others, because, you are living up to their expectation (s); and in return they are not meeting/ fulfilling your own expectation(s) that’s anticipated?  It is my personal opinion, when a person decides to be and live their authentic self on a consistent basis, it may leave little room for resentment or disappointment from other people.  Because, being authentic keeps you detached from other peoples’ expectation or opinion of you.  By not allowing the other person to have power or control over you, is living in your POWER!

Tips For Living More Authentic!

  • Develop healthier personal boundaries.  This allows either parties or more to know where everyone stands, which will allow everyone to be on the same page.
  • Be truthful with yourself!  Before you can be honest with anyone else, you have to be honest with yourself first.
  • Do not deny or suppress your feelings.  Learn how to communicate how you feel openly and constructively.  Use “I” statements, instead of “you” during conversations.  For example, “‘I’ feel like…, instead of, ‘you’ make me feel…”
  • In the same way you want someone to give you the freedom to embrace your authentic self, allow someone else the freedom to do the same.

The cost of not embracing your authentic self only shrinks the true self that continues to reinforce the false self.  Your authenticity allows you to give freely from the heart without expecting anything in return.  Which in turn, you are not attached to people’s actions or opinions that they have towards you.  Because, you will begin to learn not to take things too personally, and allow the other person to express themselves regardless how they may perceive you. TRUE FREEDOM is embracing your authentic self!  The more you live like this on a consistent basis; things, circumstance, or people that irritate or annoy will soon fade (or not have the same effect as it used to).  Hopefully, by living your authentic self can be an opportunity for the others to begin to look at themselves and begin living their authentic self.  My hope is that authenticity will become contiguous and it will free people up to live the life there are truly meant to live!  I hope that you found this helpful and hopefully you will find the courage to begin expressing the authentic YOU!

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Are You In Love Limbo?

Hello Beautiful People!

I am a Certified Creative Love ™ Coach and my overall goal is to help clients to grow more in SELF-LOVE in order for them to gain more clarity in life, love, and relationships.  If you are a single man or woman who is exhausted playing the date game and ready for a true meaningful romantic relationship; and refuse to settle, because, you know that TRUE LOVE IS POSSIBLE!  It can be emotionally exhausting where other areas in your life are flourishing, except in the area of LOVE.  Or if you have seen some improvements, however, you feel like there is some hidden residue(s) that is keeping you in love limbo…

Are You In Love Limbo…

* Have you given up on love, due to past failed relationships?

* Do you desire to be in a romantic relationship, however, a part of you is afraid of getting hurt again?

* Do you tend to self-sabotage relationships when it becomes serious?

* The thought of having a true meaningful romantic relationship seems unrealistic, and tend to settle for less than what you are worth?

* Do you think it’s impossible to receive/welcome love, because you been single for a long time?

* Are you successful/accomplished in other areas in your life, and seem to put your love life on the back burner?

* Are you tired of the same type of person (e.g. emotionally unavailable) keeps showing up in your life; and sometimes you feel like something is wrong with you?

* Are you ready to make changes but don’t know where to begin?

If you resonated with any of the following statements, please do not hesitate to sign up for your complimentary love assessment (30 mins).  This exploratory call can help you to begin to uncover the hidden areas that may be hindering your LOVE growth.  It’s time to make your LOVE life a priority!

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