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Are there times that you have dimmed your Light, because, you were afraid that you would outshine others? Whether it relates to your education,career, great idea, newfound success, new love relationship, and etc. You may have downplayed your enthusiasm when you experienced something great or experiencing it. Because, you maybe afraid how others may receive your success, accomplishment, or passion when you share it with them. As a recovering people pleaser, I’ve dimmed my own Light on numerous occasions to accommodate other’s expectations of me. Oftentimes, I’ve put myself on the back burner to make other people comfortable and that can be emotionally exhausting. Especially, when you are ALWAYS giving and rarely receiving. At times I would a carry a silent resentment, because, I was doing all of these things for you (whomever “you” is) and didn’t feel appreciated. It wasn’t until I began my self-love journey that I realized the resentments that I carried wasn’t towards other person, rather, it was towards myself. Because, I ALLOWED myself to entertain relationships or situations that didn’t reflect TRUE WORTH. Also, I tolerated those situations with the hopes something will change, rather than releasing certain people or situations that I outgrew. Unfortunately, I was usually waiting for other person or circumstances to change rather than making a decision. Self-Love taught me and continues to teach me about taking ownership of my life. No longer do I have to “wait” to see change, but, to take the necessary action steps towards the change(s) I want to experience.
Now I’m in a place that I live from an empowered place, and no longer will I give away my power. I’m on the path of success and I do not have to feel ashamed of wanting more out of life,because, it may other people uncomfortable. For way too long I’ve played small and played it safe to maintain the status quo of a mediocre life. Knowingly, that I am designed for more and there is more greatness in me that need to be unleashed. Do I have moments when my “people pleaser” side emerges? YES! However, when that side emerges it’s something I’m aware of to shift my focus back to Self -Love. Giving myself permission to create and live an abundant life in every aspect (financial, emotionally, romantically,spiritually, and etc.) is the key to my happiness… and yours.

Don’t apologize for embracing and embody your GREATNESS, STAND in it, WALK it it, LIVE it out LOUD! Don’t stop SHINING your light to appease others, when you know you are meant to do and BE something great! It is a natural byproduct that relationships dynamics will Shift, for the better or worse. When you choose to walk the path of greatness that cultivates your inner happiness, you are living an AUTHENTIC life. When you dare to live out your greatness, unconsciously, you are giving others permission to do the same. Or… it will make some people uncomfortable, which, triggers their own insecurities and they will project them on to you. The moral of the story is don’t censor your greatness and happiness … Do YOU and be HAPPY!

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                           The Benefits of Working with a LOVE Coach

I remember when I felt like there was no momentum in my love life.  I started to feel like something was “wrong with me”, because, I never experienced being in real romantic relationship.  I went on dates, experienced a pseudo relationship (we’re more than friends, but, it’s not really a relationship, kind of sort of), received unrequited “love”, and being in the “friend zone.”  Can you relate to this?  Despite, those experiences I remained hopeful about love.  At that time, I was really focused on completing my graduate degree, thinking about my future career, and as a byproduct I put my love life on the back burner.  Hoping that “one day” love will magically fall into my lap.

When I moved to Hawai’i, I was ready and willing to live life differently.  I began to assess my love life and decided that I needed to take a different approach.  When I made that decision and love became my priority, opportunity knocked on my heart.  I’m reminded by this Zen quote “when the student is ready, the teacher will appear.”  That’s what happened to me, my love coach appeared!  Which was the beginning of rewriting my love story.

It can be frustrating when other areas in your life is flourishing, except in the area of love.  You probably tried the self-help books, affirmations, friends/family and etc.  I’m not minimizing these resources, because, I continue to implement them in my life.  I’m sure that you have experienced some improvements, however, there are hidden residues that are keeping you stuck in love.  In the area of love and relationships most people think this is something that will happen automatically.  This is a common misconception, which most individuals may think it’s not necessary to put any time, attention, or effort to nurture their love life.  Interestingly, it’s common to put time, attention, and efforts in other areas of your life ( e.g. career,education, money, and etc.).  Why not give the same attention to your love life? Why leave it up chance?

What if you could uncover what is really keeping the love you desire at a distance?  Unconsciously, you are not allowing love in your life.  This is where I come in to help you navigate the areas that’s preventing you to receive the love that you desire. It’s time to make LOVE your priority!

The Benefits…

Coaching is not therapy or counseling, it a less formal approach to examine your love life.

•    A love coach can help you to obtain a clear vision  for your love life.  
•    Provide support and guidance that will help you to get focus to reach your desired goal.
•    Once you open up yourself to love, you will see the infinite possibilities!
•    The more you grow in self-love, you view love and relationships in a different way.

If you are ready to take your LOVE to the next level, schedule your FREE Love Assessment.  Please watch this video to learn more of the benefits of working with a love coach.

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It’s time to get out of your comfort zone. Today declare that you will do something different that will lead you a step closer to your goals,dreams,or aspirations. This is where miracles happens!

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Self Love Dare: 7 Day Challenge!

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The New Year 2015 is right around the corner. Many of us can’t believe how this year flew by. Many of us have New Year’s goals, intentions, or positive outlook. I thought it would be a great idea to come up with a dare/challenge to jump start our New Year.
Who: Anyone can participate!
What: If you are ready to move out of your comfort zone to jump start 2015 in POSITIVE way. Then participate in this 7 day challenge!
Why: Learn how to be more committed to yourself (non selfish way). Also, this can help you keep the New Year Momentum.
When: January 5-11th
Where: Anyone can participate on my FB page: shanalovecoaching, Twitter: @shanalovecoach, or my
How: Each day I would post a dare/challenge for that day. Once you completed your Dare, you can post it to my social media sites (mentioned above) ,website, or all three.