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         5 “AHA” Moments From My Whirlwind Weekend!

1) Expect The Unexpected

“It’s better to be prepared for an opportunity and not have one than to have an opportunity and not be prepared” ~Whitney M Young

My whirlwind weekend began with a simple phone conversation with a close friend of mine. This opportunity came about from seconds of hanging up the phone when I asked “what are you doing next weekend, are you working?”.  My friend asked if I was available to help with her event in Oakland,CA and I said “Yes, I’m available!”. The next thing you know, the following weekend I’m on the plane to California to support my friend,connecting with AMAZING women, deepening my friendship bond, and enjoying the San Francisco scenery.

The moral of this experience is, when opportunity knocks open the door.  If the opportunity that is presented to you feels right, don’t get too caught up in the “HOW”.  Also, don’t be afraid to say YES to yourself. 

2) Residue of Self-Sabotage…Exposing My Hidden Blind Spots 
This is where I experienced most of my “aha” moments. When you have supportive friends in your life, they will tell you the TRUTH with tough love (in my case).  Not the “harsh truth”, just enough fire underyour tail to wake you up a bit. My friend and I had a great deep discussion, and realized certain aspects of myself risen to the surface– residues of self-sabotage. In that moment she helped me to become aware of my blind spots. Especially, in the area of how approach my business.  Though I’ve made progress and growth in this area.  At times, I’m still playing small, not honoring my worth, and drowning out my own voice through the voices of others.


It’s great to have supportive people in your life who want to see you grow and prosper. They are not afraid to give you “though love” when necessary, which, can cause inspired actions to help you move forward. 


3) Be PRESENT… Go With The Flow 

This was one of the major lessons that I learned from the time I arrived to San Francisco till my departure. Literally, from beginning to end this was my underlying message. When I landed at San Francisco airport, “MY PLAN” was to meet up with a good friend (Atlanta) of mine who lives in Oakland, before heading to the hotel.  Due to time restraints we had to rearrange our plans to possibly reconnect before my short visit.  

I called Uber to pick me up from the airport (SFO) to Oakland, when I got in the car, the driver stated he doesn’t go to Oakland. He cancelled my trip, due to rush hour traffic on the bridge would take about over an hour to CROSS over the bridge. I called my other friend (hosting event) to inform her that I’ll stay in San Francisco and meet at the book tour.  She got us tickets for Danielle LaPorte book tour ( Hot White Truth).  Then afterwards, we took pictures with the author,autographed our books, and tried Brumese food for first time.  

Overall, my only “agenda” I had was get on the plane to California, go to book tour Friday evening, help at friend’s event on Saturday and anything goes from there. The funny thing, my last day in San Francisco, I got up EXTRA EARLY to leave the hotel by 6:30am.  I called an Uber driver that was estimated to arrive around 11 minutes, then it turned int 15 mins, then it turned into another 15 mins and then FINALLY! The driver was arriving 3 mins away, then I received a message that driver CANCELLED my trip and charged me! What!!!! I tried not to be pissed, but, the good thing was that my flight didn’t leave till 10:45am. Thankfully, I was way ahead of schedule.  Fortunately, I got another Uber driver that was already in the area less than 5 minutes and was a pleasant experience.  

Moral of this experience is just go with flow, be present and live in the moment. No need to get bogged down by the past or caught up in the future, because, it can steal the valuable moment of the present.  
4) Time Out, To Tune In 
This whirlwind trip shook up my mundane routine that I needed.  My time in San Francisco was a great balance of work and play.  It was great time for self-reflection to shed light on my current circumstance that shifted my perspective. As a result, I gained deeper insights, clarity, and plans of taking inspired actions.

Sometimes you need to shake up your mundane routine and get out of your comfort zone.  You gain valuable insights that can provide a different perspective or result.  Make sure that you schedule some time for self-care to unplug.  It’s important to take time out, to tune in. 


5) Getting Clarity 

The overall outcome of this whirlwind expedition lead me to CLARITY!  I felt this experience was a sneak peek of my upcoming summer retreat.  This is possibly a taste of the few women can experience on this “island getaway” to get the necessary clarity they need.

If you feel stuck or stagnant implement number 4 on this list. Once you receive the clarity, make sure to take the inspired action (s) that will create a SHIFT within yourself.

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Are You Overcompensating?


When you believe that you are lacking in some area in your life, you have the propensity to overcompensate. Oftentimes, the feelings of inadequacy or a lack self-confidence are the culprits of making you feel that you are not enough. As a result, you may not feel competent of carrying out the work or mission that you are EQUIPPED to do. You may “over do it” to prove that you are worthy, great, or “I am enough”. I am here to REMIND YOU that are ALREADY ENOUGH, better yet, YOU ARE MORE THAN ENOUGH! You don’t need to bend over backwards on a consistent basis to prove your WORTH to people, especially, if they don’t honor or value you. It can be so DRAINING 😫(e.g. emotionally, mentally, and etc.) that can exacerbate burnout. You don’t need to rely on external validations to showcase your GREATNESS. You maybe tempted to over give, overwork, or over share to be accepted/loved to prove to someone else that you are worthy to be LOVED. This relates to ALL spectrums of relationships (i.e. family, work, business, friends, and etc.). Please don’t confuse or get it twisted that I don’t value or encourage you to put your best efforts. I’m more concerned about the INTENTION/MOTIVATION behind the ACTION that you are displaying. Under what guise are you operating from🤔? Is it from a place of FEAR 😁or LOVE😍? Think about your INTENTIONS behind your ACTIONS to assess your self-worth. 

Know that you enough, even if you feel like you should “do” more to fully accept yourself. Cut yourself some slack and stop 🚫being hard on yourself ( beating up yourself) of having to be “perfect”🙄. It’s about PROGRESS, NOT PERFECTION! It’s time to learn how to L💖VE and accept yourself as is. Then you can release any self-judgement to move freely and allow change to take place in your life with little or no resistance. Remember to TRUST THE PROCESS of the changes or desired outcomes you want to experience. Just BE, YOU ARE MORE THAN ENOUGH! 

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HAPPINESS UNCENSORED!

Are there times that you have dimmed your Light, because, you were afraid that you would outshine others? Whether it relates to your education,career, great idea, newfound success, new love relationship, and etc. You may have downplayed your enthusiasm when you experienced something great or experiencing it. Because, you maybe afraid how others may receive your success, accomplishment, or passion when you share it with them. As a recovering people pleaser, I’ve dimmed my own Light on numerous occasions to accommodate other’s expectations of me. Oftentimes, I’ve put myself on the back burner to make other people comfortable and that can be emotionally exhausting. Especially, when you are ALWAYS giving and rarely receiving. At times I would a carry a silent resentment, because, I was doing all of these things for you (whomever “you” is) and didn’t feel appreciated. It wasn’t until I began my self-love journey that I realized the resentments that I carried wasn’t towards other person, rather, it was towards myself. Because, I ALLOWED myself to entertain relationships or situations that didn’t reflect TRUE WORTH. Also, I tolerated those situations with the hopes something will change, rather than releasing certain people or situations that I outgrew. Unfortunately, I was usually waiting for other person or circumstances to change rather than making a decision. Self-Love taught me and continues to teach me about taking ownership of my life. No longer do I have to “wait” to see change, but, to take the necessary action steps towards the change(s) I want to experience.
Now I’m in a place that I live from an empowered place, and no longer will I give away my power. I’m on the path of success and I do not have to feel ashamed of wanting more out of life,because, it may other people uncomfortable. For way too long I’ve played small and played it safe to maintain the status quo of a mediocre life. Knowingly, that I am designed for more and there is more greatness in me that need to be unleashed. Do I have moments when my “people pleaser” side emerges? YES! However, when that side emerges it’s something I’m aware of to shift my focus back to Self -Love. Giving myself permission to create and live an abundant life in every aspect (financial, emotionally, romantically,spiritually, and etc.) is the key to my happiness… and yours.

Don’t apologize for embracing and embody your GREATNESS, STAND in it, WALK it it, LIVE it out LOUD! Don’t stop SHINING your light to appease others, when you know you are meant to do and BE something great! It is a natural byproduct that relationships dynamics will Shift, for the better or worse. When you choose to walk the path of greatness that cultivates your inner happiness, you are living an AUTHENTIC life. When you dare to live out your greatness, unconsciously, you are giving others permission to do the same. Or… it will make some people uncomfortable, which, triggers their own insecurities and they will project them on to you. The moral of the story is don’t censor your greatness and happiness … Do YOU and be HAPPY!

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PASSIONATE AWAKENING!

I’m still basking in the LOVE that I experienced a week ago at the LOVE and LIGHT LIVE conference, which was hosted by Kevin Madison! This was one of the most powerful and transformational conference that I’ve been to in a while that was life changing. I don’t know where to begin to describe what I’ve experienced for those two days.

Recently, I was asked “what was my biggest take away?”; I responded, “ for me it was the having the COURAGE to LOVE deeper. Allowing myself to give and receive LOVE more freely and release the fear of people’s expectations (real or imagined). Overall, it’s about OWNING my GREATNESS, stepping into my POWER, and unleash the LOVE within that I have for myself and others.” That response encapsulates my emotions and thoughts of my experience at LOVE and LIGHT LIVE. It RE-AWAKENED a PASSION that was borderline dormant, because, my external world wasn’t fully reflecting of my envisioned life. I was reminded of my WHY– my reasons of pursuing my PASSION and PURPOSE. It RE-IGNITED the spark that I initially had when I started my business, which, I made a RE-COMMITMENT to my business by being more engaged. There are so many transformational SHIFTS that occurred that I want to share, however, these were my BIGGEST take aways. Which lead to my PASSIONATE AWAKENING!

Two days of being surrounded by LOVE and soaking up the LOVE ENERGY, it’s inevitable to remain the same person. My old mindset cannot accommodate the NEW person that I’m becoming, therefore, out with the old and in with the new. I’m grateful for the people I connected with, now we have a special bond to continually lift each other up in LOVE. Thank you for allowing me to share my heart with you. I’ll leave you with this, in the words of Kevin Madison “May LOVE surround you, and LIGHT shine upon you”…

Heart Moment

1) Are you currently experiencing a lack of PASSION in a certain area in your life (e.g. career, love, spiritual, and etc.)?

2) Where would like to experience more PASSION in your current situation, and what would you life look like with a renewed PASSION?

3) What can you do TODAY( NOW,not tomorrow) to RE-AWAKENING that PASSION that resides on the inside of you?

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Throwback Thursday: SHIFT Happens … My Unfolding Story!

  

Wow!  It has been a while since I’ve written a “real” blog.   I am feeling a bit nostalgic, reflecting on my journey (last year) as a first time author.  It’s still surreal how everything unfolded and all the pieces that came together.  Being part of a collaborative book project created a beautiful tapestry of colorful stories from various women that gave birth to SHIFT!

I difinately experienced a SHIFT before, during, and after the writing process.  My life story continues to unfold and experiencing many transformations, which, is leading me on my path to GREATNESS.  I’m not afraid when SHIFT happens in my life, because, I know that I’m growing and strengthen my FAITH muscles.

When SHIFT happens in your life, don’t be afraid of growth.  This is an opportunity for you to recognize your personal strength,gifts, talents, and all the other greatness that ALREADY resides within you. 

 SHIFT happens when we become too complacent with the status quo in our lives. Our GREATNESS will call us out if we have the tendency to settle and SHIFT us out of our comfort zone.

I personally believe that each of us have a potential for GREATNESS, however, you define GREATNESS for yourself.  Oftentimes, we don’t tap into our GREATNESS due to fear, doubt, self-limited beliefs can hold our dreams hostages.  Now is the time to unleash your GREATNESS and begin to write your story.

We all have a story, but, maybe afraid to share it.  There maybe some chapters in your life that you have to finish, before, you can move on to the next one.  Maybe you need to stop reading the same “old” book over and over, and it’s time for NEW story.  Remember that you have the power to rewrite your story, just write and let your story unfold… 

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Day 19 (30 Days Of LOVE Affirmations ™ )

Todays Affirmation: “I Embrace My Greatness And I LOVE who I Am”
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Embracing one’s greatness can seem intimidating .  At least for me anyhow, however, I am continually growing in my space of greatness.  This was something I knew I had along, but, I kept it hidden from myself and others. After a while, my greatness was not comfortable playing small, being contained in a box, and detained by my self-posed limitations that I created (unconsciously) within myself.

One day I finally mustered up the courage to break out of that box to free myself from myself (limited).  How did I do it and continuing to do it? It takes commitment to my personal growth and being deliberate on how I choose to see myself (positive self-image).

To often people wander through life not realizing their greatness.  Don’t you know that YOU are GREAT?  You are not great based on “what you do”, “who you know” , or by “ economical or social status.”  YOU are GREAT because you are LOVE!  Unfortunately, some of you have forgotten what you are made of. Life may have dissapointed you, dissapointed yourself or others that caused you to dim your light.  Wondering if “something is wrong with me”, or ” I’m unlovable” , or “I’m not enough”, or ” I’m not_________(fill in the blank)

Too often I see people who are weary and it shows in their eyes.  “The eyes are the windows to the soul” ( ~ anonymous).  It’s like some people lost their identity, forgetting the true value they (You) posses inside.  Only if we return to LOVE, you can remember how GREAT you are and EMBODY it.

LOVE Nuggets
*You are meant for greatness, not only for yourself. Others can benefit from your greatness when you increase your SELF-LOVE!

*When you embrace your greatness, others will unleash greatness as well.

*Write down 3-5 things you LOVE about yourself and begin to embrace that.