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         5 “AHA” Moments From My Whirlwind Weekend!

1) Expect The Unexpected

“It’s better to be prepared for an opportunity and not have one than to have an opportunity and not be prepared” ~Whitney M Young

My whirlwind weekend began with a simple phone conversation with a close friend of mine. This opportunity came about from seconds of hanging up the phone when I asked “what are you doing next weekend, are you working?”.  My friend asked if I was available to help with her event in Oakland,CA and I said “Yes, I’m available!”. The next thing you know, the following weekend I’m on the plane to California to support my friend,connecting with AMAZING women, deepening my friendship bond, and enjoying the San Francisco scenery.

The moral of this experience is, when opportunity knocks open the door.  If the opportunity that is presented to you feels right, don’t get too caught up in the “HOW”.  Also, don’t be afraid to say YES to yourself. 

2) Residue of Self-Sabotage…Exposing My Hidden Blind Spots 
This is where I experienced most of my “aha” moments. When you have supportive friends in your life, they will tell you the TRUTH with tough love (in my case).  Not the “harsh truth”, just enough fire underyour tail to wake you up a bit. My friend and I had a great deep discussion, and realized certain aspects of myself risen to the surface– residues of self-sabotage. In that moment she helped me to become aware of my blind spots. Especially, in the area of how approach my business.  Though I’ve made progress and growth in this area.  At times, I’m still playing small, not honoring my worth, and drowning out my own voice through the voices of others.


It’s great to have supportive people in your life who want to see you grow and prosper. They are not afraid to give you “though love” when necessary, which, can cause inspired actions to help you move forward. 


3) Be PRESENT… Go With The Flow 

This was one of the major lessons that I learned from the time I arrived to San Francisco till my departure. Literally, from beginning to end this was my underlying message. When I landed at San Francisco airport, “MY PLAN” was to meet up with a good friend (Atlanta) of mine who lives in Oakland, before heading to the hotel.  Due to time restraints we had to rearrange our plans to possibly reconnect before my short visit.  

I called Uber to pick me up from the airport (SFO) to Oakland, when I got in the car, the driver stated he doesn’t go to Oakland. He cancelled my trip, due to rush hour traffic on the bridge would take about over an hour to CROSS over the bridge. I called my other friend (hosting event) to inform her that I’ll stay in San Francisco and meet at the book tour.  She got us tickets for Danielle LaPorte book tour ( Hot White Truth).  Then afterwards, we took pictures with the author,autographed our books, and tried Brumese food for first time.  

Overall, my only “agenda” I had was get on the plane to California, go to book tour Friday evening, help at friend’s event on Saturday and anything goes from there. The funny thing, my last day in San Francisco, I got up EXTRA EARLY to leave the hotel by 6:30am.  I called an Uber driver that was estimated to arrive around 11 minutes, then it turned int 15 mins, then it turned into another 15 mins and then FINALLY! The driver was arriving 3 mins away, then I received a message that driver CANCELLED my trip and charged me! What!!!! I tried not to be pissed, but, the good thing was that my flight didn’t leave till 10:45am. Thankfully, I was way ahead of schedule.  Fortunately, I got another Uber driver that was already in the area less than 5 minutes and was a pleasant experience.  

Moral of this experience is just go with flow, be present and live in the moment. No need to get bogged down by the past or caught up in the future, because, it can steal the valuable moment of the present.  
4) Time Out, To Tune In 
This whirlwind trip shook up my mundane routine that I needed.  My time in San Francisco was a great balance of work and play.  It was great time for self-reflection to shed light on my current circumstance that shifted my perspective. As a result, I gained deeper insights, clarity, and plans of taking inspired actions.

Sometimes you need to shake up your mundane routine and get out of your comfort zone.  You gain valuable insights that can provide a different perspective or result.  Make sure that you schedule some time for self-care to unplug.  It’s important to take time out, to tune in. 


5) Getting Clarity 

The overall outcome of this whirlwind expedition lead me to CLARITY!  I felt this experience was a sneak peek of my upcoming summer retreat.  This is possibly a taste of the few women can experience on this “island getaway” to get the necessary clarity they need.

If you feel stuck or stagnant implement number 4 on this list. Once you receive the clarity, make sure to take the inspired action (s) that will create a SHIFT within yourself.

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It’s My Anniversary!!


WOW! I can’t believe how time ⏰flies🛫…. it’s been 4 years living in paradise 🏝. When I arrived to Hawaii 4 years ago, I didn’t have a job waiting for or placate to live. All I packed were my suitcases, along with my FAITH & Big Dreams to start a new beginning. Who would have know that taking a QUANTUM LEAP OF FAITH lead me on the path of deep self-discovery. Along the way I stumbled across self-love that I got reacquainted with Shana…

Ever since that time to the present I’m continuing to learn about myself, excavated (and continuing)buried treasures 🎁💎 that I repressed, operating from a more EMPOWERED 💪🏾 place, and continuing the process of BEcoming. I’ve met and continuing to connect with beautiful souls, which, I’m usually greeting with ALOHA! I’m grateful for the wonderful relationships, opportunities, love, and faith that continues to create this beauty tapestry called LIFE!

I’m grateful for ALL my family and friends on the mainland that supported me with my move, though bittersweet at the time. Though we don’t get to visit each other often in person, each of you hold a special place in my heart and know that I love you.

Life is beautiful and sacred, which, I cherish each moment, live in gratitude, and strive to walk in unconditional love. These are few of my reflective thoughts and thank you reading….

To those of you reading this… DON’T GIVE UP on your DREAMS….continue to BELIEVE in yourself… tap into your GREATNESS that resides within you (you ALREADY have everything in to SUCCEED… REMEMBER YOU ARE LOVABLE✨

Happy Anniversary to Me💗✨🙏🏾🎉🎁

 

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HAPPINESS UNCENSORED!

Are there times that you have dimmed your Light, because, you were afraid that you would outshine others? Whether it relates to your education,career, great idea, newfound success, new love relationship, and etc. You may have downplayed your enthusiasm when you experienced something great or experiencing it. Because, you maybe afraid how others may receive your success, accomplishment, or passion when you share it with them. As a recovering people pleaser, I’ve dimmed my own Light on numerous occasions to accommodate other’s expectations of me. Oftentimes, I’ve put myself on the back burner to make other people comfortable and that can be emotionally exhausting. Especially, when you are ALWAYS giving and rarely receiving. At times I would a carry a silent resentment, because, I was doing all of these things for you (whomever “you” is) and didn’t feel appreciated. It wasn’t until I began my self-love journey that I realized the resentments that I carried wasn’t towards other person, rather, it was towards myself. Because, I ALLOWED myself to entertain relationships or situations that didn’t reflect TRUE WORTH. Also, I tolerated those situations with the hopes something will change, rather than releasing certain people or situations that I outgrew. Unfortunately, I was usually waiting for other person or circumstances to change rather than making a decision. Self-Love taught me and continues to teach me about taking ownership of my life. No longer do I have to “wait” to see change, but, to take the necessary action steps towards the change(s) I want to experience.
Now I’m in a place that I live from an empowered place, and no longer will I give away my power. I’m on the path of success and I do not have to feel ashamed of wanting more out of life,because, it may other people uncomfortable. For way too long I’ve played small and played it safe to maintain the status quo of a mediocre life. Knowingly, that I am designed for more and there is more greatness in me that need to be unleashed. Do I have moments when my “people pleaser” side emerges? YES! However, when that side emerges it’s something I’m aware of to shift my focus back to Self -Love. Giving myself permission to create and live an abundant life in every aspect (financial, emotionally, romantically,spiritually, and etc.) is the key to my happiness… and yours.

Don’t apologize for embracing and embody your GREATNESS, STAND in it, WALK it it, LIVE it out LOUD! Don’t stop SHINING your light to appease others, when you know you are meant to do and BE something great! It is a natural byproduct that relationships dynamics will Shift, for the better or worse. When you choose to walk the path of greatness that cultivates your inner happiness, you are living an AUTHENTIC life. When you dare to live out your greatness, unconsciously, you are giving others permission to do the same. Or… it will make some people uncomfortable, which, triggers their own insecurities and they will project them on to you. The moral of the story is don’t censor your greatness and happiness … Do YOU and be HAPPY!

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Do You Give Yourself Permission To Live?



    What would your life look like if you gave yourself permission to do what you truly desire?

    Lately, the notion of self-permission has been emerging from my mind.  Whether in my personal life, business, family members, or mere observation of other people.
    This is a theme that I keep encountering.

    The main thing that keep coming up for me is that I am NOT stuck!  On occasion, I can have the illusion of feeling “stuck”.  However, I’m discovering that I’m holding myself back in some area.  Which I’m not giving myself permission to do or say the things that I truly desire.  It can be due to fear (rejection), doubt (second guessing), or low confidence (being vulnerable).  Or waiting for an external validation (e.g. family, friends, colleagues, or etc.) for permission to take that next step.   

     I noticed that I was the one that was holding myself up.  It was not other people (most cases), because, I still have the power of CHOICE.  Am I going to stay in this situation or leave?  Am I going to speak my truth or remain silent?  What I am learning is that anyone can get UNSTUCK!  When you make a decision to give yourself permission to begin living your life.

    Oftentimes, we are conditioned  to live up to certain expectations from our society,family, culture or any external factors that are heavy influences in our lives.  I know that self-permission is liberating (sense of freedom) and it’s part of self-discovery.  You’ll begin to recognize certain gifts,talents, or interests that you enjoy that you rarely noticed before. You can begin to fall in love (or more in love) with your life and make decisions from an empowered place. You’ll begin to notice that you manifest more desirable experience in your life,because, you are more aligned with your authentic self.   Your dreams, desires, and life are waiting on YOU to say YES

    Heart Reflections

    1) Where are you holding yourself back in your life?

    2) How can you give yourself permission to start living more authentically?

    3) What can your life look like when you start giving yourself permission to BE YOU?

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    Throwback Thursday: SHIFT Happens … My Unfolding Story!

      

    Wow!  It has been a while since I’ve written a “real” blog.   I am feeling a bit nostalgic, reflecting on my journey (last year) as a first time author.  It’s still surreal how everything unfolded and all the pieces that came together.  Being part of a collaborative book project created a beautiful tapestry of colorful stories from various women that gave birth to SHIFT!

    I difinately experienced a SHIFT before, during, and after the writing process.  My life story continues to unfold and experiencing many transformations, which, is leading me on my path to GREATNESS.  I’m not afraid when SHIFT happens in my life, because, I know that I’m growing and strengthen my FAITH muscles.

    When SHIFT happens in your life, don’t be afraid of growth.  This is an opportunity for you to recognize your personal strength,gifts, talents, and all the other greatness that ALREADY resides within you. 

     SHIFT happens when we become too complacent with the status quo in our lives. Our GREATNESS will call us out if we have the tendency to settle and SHIFT us out of our comfort zone.

    I personally believe that each of us have a potential for GREATNESS, however, you define GREATNESS for yourself.  Oftentimes, we don’t tap into our GREATNESS due to fear, doubt, self-limited beliefs can hold our dreams hostages.  Now is the time to unleash your GREATNESS and begin to write your story.

    We all have a story, but, maybe afraid to share it.  There maybe some chapters in your life that you have to finish, before, you can move on to the next one.  Maybe you need to stop reading the same “old” book over and over, and it’s time for NEW story.  Remember that you have the power to rewrite your story, just write and let your story unfold… 

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    Day 30 (30 Days Of LOVE Affirmations ™ )

    Today’s Affirmation: ” God’s Abundant LOVE Keeps Expanding My Life In Every Good Way!”

    Wow! I can’t believe that I am at the end of my 30 days journey.  As the LOVE affirmation stated above. It has been my experience that I see my life expanding in “every good way”. God’s LOVE is ABUNDANT that will enrich your life if you acknowledge this as truth. If you experiencing or have experience expansion in any area of your life, it’s a reminder of God’s ABUNDANT LOVE being expressed through You. What I have learned from this experience is that doing affirmations correctly (getting into the feeling) and on a consistent basis will enhance your moment, day, and life. 

    Thank you for sharing this journey with me! I realized that it is fun to have company while you are implementing something new in my life. I’m not sure I would have been consistent with this 30 Days Of LOVE Affirmations ™I. This was a great way for accountability in order to develop a habit. It has been my pleasure to share these with you and I hope in some way that you found these LOVE affirmations beneficial.   

    LOVE Nuggets 

    – Even though the 30days… has completed, I encourage you to continue to implement positive affirmation in your life.

    Affirmations can create a mental shift from scarcity mindset to an abundance  mindset.

    – You have the ability to enhancing your life by changing the way you think, see, and tell yourself.

    Please feel free to your comments below about your 30 Days Of LOVE Affirmations ™ Also, if you will like to learn more about my LOVE coaching services visit http://www.shanalovecoaching.com Or email: shana@shanalovecoaching.com

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    Day 23 (30 Days Of LOVE Affirmations ™ )

    Today’s Affirmations: ” Each Day I Am Growing In LOVE and Gratitude”

    Lately, I have noticed that I am expressing my LOVE and Gratitude more frequently in my life. I don’t only express GRATITUDE when things are going well; I especially express it when things don’t go my way.
    Have you experienced being pissed off by a friend, family member, colleague, or a stranger by something they said or did (or didn’t say or do)? Or maybe you were waiting or hoping for something that didn’t turn out as you anticipated.  Or you didn’t get the job/potential client, a love relationship that didn’t blossom to the next level, or etc… 

    I encourage you to see the silver lining in your moment of life’s disappointments. Emphasis on the word ” MOMENT”, which means any setbacks you are experiencing is TEMPORARY. In the midst of momentarily “defeats”, recite your gratitude and send LOVE to yourself, other, and your situation.

    LOVE Nuggets

    – Don’t beat yourself up when you make mistakes, just learn and grow from your experience.

    – Setbacks, delays, or feeling stagnant can be frustrating,however, take advantage of the solitude that is giving you valuable insights in your quiet moments.

    – Each day say something that you are grateful for, whether in the mornings and/or right before bed.

    -To increase your state of GRATITUDE by keeping a gratitude journal.

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    Day 19 (30 Days Of LOVE Affirmations ™ )

    Todays Affirmation: “I Embrace My Greatness And I LOVE who I Am”
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    Embracing one’s greatness can seem intimidating .  At least for me anyhow, however, I am continually growing in my space of greatness.  This was something I knew I had along, but, I kept it hidden from myself and others. After a while, my greatness was not comfortable playing small, being contained in a box, and detained by my self-posed limitations that I created (unconsciously) within myself.

    One day I finally mustered up the courage to break out of that box to free myself from myself (limited).  How did I do it and continuing to do it? It takes commitment to my personal growth and being deliberate on how I choose to see myself (positive self-image).

    To often people wander through life not realizing their greatness.  Don’t you know that YOU are GREAT?  You are not great based on “what you do”, “who you know” , or by “ economical or social status.”  YOU are GREAT because you are LOVE!  Unfortunately, some of you have forgotten what you are made of. Life may have dissapointed you, dissapointed yourself or others that caused you to dim your light.  Wondering if “something is wrong with me”, or ” I’m unlovable” , or “I’m not enough”, or ” I’m not_________(fill in the blank)

    Too often I see people who are weary and it shows in their eyes.  “The eyes are the windows to the soul” ( ~ anonymous).  It’s like some people lost their identity, forgetting the true value they (You) posses inside.  Only if we return to LOVE, you can remember how GREAT you are and EMBODY it.

    LOVE Nuggets
    *You are meant for greatness, not only for yourself. Others can benefit from your greatness when you increase your SELF-LOVE!

    *When you embrace your greatness, others will unleash greatness as well.

    *Write down 3-5 things you LOVE about yourself and begin to embrace that.

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    Day 14 (30 Days Of LOVE Affirmations ™ )

    Today’s Affirmation: “I Am Now Being Guided By God’s LOVE In Everything That I Do”

      

    Lately, I have been thinking about all the things that I am grateful for in my life.  Especially, for the opportunity of co-authoring a book called Shift that comes out on July 1st! (Stay tuned for updates on my blog).  I know that my life is changing,expanding and mentally preparing this Shift (change for the better) in my life

    Sometimes when we undergo life transformation, it can be a challenge to get adjusted to the new you.  It may take a while to find your rhythm, you may feel off beat and hope to God that you are not making a fool of yourself.  Sometimes doubt, fear, or insecurities wants to creep in to second guess who you are becoming.  When I catch myself going down that path, I remember that I have to trust the process.

    Whatever life transformation that you maybe currently experiencing is usually for the better (if you don’t resist).  The feeling of uncertainty of an outcome can be unnerving.  However, in the midst of transformation, know that you are LOVED and being DIVINELY GUIDED on the path that you are on.  There are some moments you may feel may not feel LOVED or feel alone, know that you are never alone.  

    LOVE Nuggets

    • Feel free to come up with your own LOVE affirmation or interchange words that works best for you.
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    Day 12 (30 Days Of LOVE Affirmations ™ )

    Today’s Affirmation: ” God’s LOVE Is Guiding Me and I Am Now Attuned To The Divine Plan of My Life”

      

    Recently,I have been feeling a strong tug on my heartstrings to make some life decisions that will transform my life.  As it relates to my work/ career life that requires me to get out of my comfort zone.  It’s one of those things that I’m dealing with, you know, ” I know what I need to do,but, don’t do it.  Mentally going back and forth, ‘should I or shouldn’t I, is now a good time to make this decision, or what if.'”  I can go on and on to find reasons that to stall myself from doing the thing that my heart is calling me to do.  I know the outcome will be good,but, the uncertiany of how things are going to unfold can cause me to second guess in myself.

    I know that it seems like I’m rambling, in a way, yes I am.  But, that’s how you may sound in your head when weighing out things when making a decision that can change your life and take it to the next level.  The last thing  I want to do is self-sabotage,because, of my unwillingness to grow out of my confront zone.

    The past few days the lessons,reminders, and conformations that I have been receiving provides support along this inner journey.  I have been working my FAITH muscles in overdrive.  Holding the desired vision for my life and not be moved by fear, because, my external environment don’t reflect my inner vision I see in my life.  I’m continuing trusting God and the Divine plan for my life and have not come all things way in my personal journey to fail.  I’m only set up for success as long as don’t give into fear and to walk in faith.  All I can do is trust the process and have fun along the way.

      
    LOVE Nuggets

    • Don’t be afraid to follow your dreams!  You are never too young or too old to begin, now is the right time to start.
    • Any seemingly obstacles you may face in pursuit in your dreams can lesson that you can use as your stepping stones to elevate your party. 
    • Know that you are worthy and deserving of the LOVE and LIFE you desire… BELIEVE IT!
    • Feel free to come up with your own LOVE affirmation or interchange words that works best for you.