Are there times that you have dimmed your Light, because, you were afraid that you would outshine others? Whether it relates to your education,career, great idea, newfound success, new love relationship, and etc. You may have downplayed your enthusiasm when you experienced something great or experiencing it. Because, you maybe afraid how others may receive your success, accomplishment, or passion when you share it with them. As a recovering people pleaser, I’ve dimmed my own Light on numerous occasions to accommodate other’s expectations of me. Oftentimes, I’ve put myself on the back burner to make other people comfortable and that can be emotionally exhausting. Especially, when you are ALWAYS giving and rarely receiving. At times I would a carry a silent resentment, because, I was doing all of these things for you (whomever “you” is) and didn’t feel appreciated. It wasn’t until I began my self-love journey that I realized the resentments that I carried wasn’t towards other person, rather, it was towards myself. Because, I ALLOWED myself to entertain relationships or situations that didn’t reflect TRUE WORTH. Also, I tolerated those situations with the hopes something will change, rather than releasing certain people or situations that I outgrew. Unfortunately, I was usually waiting for other person or circumstances to change rather than making a decision. Self-Love taught me and continues to teach me about taking ownership of my life. No longer do I have to “wait” to see change, but, to take the necessary action steps towards the change(s) I want to experience.
Now I’m in a place that I live from an empowered place, and no longer will I give away my power. I’m on the path of success and I do not have to feel ashamed of wanting more out of life,because, it may other people uncomfortable. For way too long I’ve played small and played it safe to maintain the status quo of a mediocre life. Knowingly, that I am designed for more and there is more greatness in me that need to be unleashed. Do I have moments when my “people pleaser” side emerges? YES! However, when that side emerges it’s something I’m aware of to shift my focus back to Self -Love. Giving myself permission to create and live an abundant life in every aspect (financial, emotionally, romantically,spiritually, and etc.) is the key to my happiness… and yours.
Don’t apologize for embracing and embody your GREATNESS, STAND in it, WALK it it, LIVE it out LOUD! Don’t stop SHINING your light to appease others, when you know you are meant to do and BE something great! It is a natural byproduct that relationships dynamics will Shift, for the better or worse. When you choose to walk the path of greatness that cultivates your inner happiness, you are living an AUTHENTIC life. When you dare to live out your greatness, unconsciously, you are giving others permission to do the same. Or… it will make some people uncomfortable, which, triggers their own insecurities and they will project them on to you. The moral of the story is don’t censor your greatness and happiness … Do YOU and be HAPPY!
Shana Love Coaching 