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Day 11 (30 Days Of LOVE Affirmations ™ )

Today’s Affirmations: My Heart is Open and I Am Ready to LOVE, Again”

Recently, I have decided that I am ready to start dating, again.  I renewed my subcription to an online dating service.  I’m starting this LOVE journey with a light hearted approach and to have FUN during this process.  I am very excited and open to the POSSIBILITIES of LOVE!

Couple’s Affirmation: ” I LAUGH with my _________________(e.g. husband, wife, girlfriend, boyfriend, and etc.) more and more each day”

Creating more laughter is healthy for your relationship.  Laughter can lighten up a hard situation; it can be a great icebreaker to any silence or a minor rough patch that you may encounter.  It is a great “tool” to jumpstart communication to come to LOVING resolution.  Laughter is a gift and a great way to enhance any relationship. 

 

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How Can The Ache Of Loneliness Lead You To Love?

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 You may be wondering, how can an emotion that feels so unpleasant lead me to love?  Regardless of your marital status, whether you are married, divorced, single parent, widowed, coupled, or single.  Most of us have experienced loneliness in one form or another or currently experiencing it.  I want to give special attention to the single men and women reading this and those who coupled are welcomed to read on.  If you are a single person, you may have entertained the idea that entering a relationship maybe the “cure” to your loneliness. Or the ache can show up when you are surrounded by others couples; question from loved ones “why are you still single?”; or “when are you going to get ‘out there’ and start dating, again?”, or your self-limited mind chatter can be holding you hostage.  In addition, some married couples and those in long-term relationships can experience loneliness as well.  It’s possible that loneliness can exist within a romantic relationship.  How is that possible? You may be wondering.

Loneliness is not necessarily base on external factors; it’s an internal emotional response that signals us to look at something a bit closer.  Just like physical discomfort, it’s an indicator that something is requiring our attention to explore what is causing us pain or discomfort.  Sometimes, based on the severity of a physical discomfort we may choose to ignore it or go see a doctor/specialist to further examine the possible root cause of that discomfort.  Unfortunately, it’s not the same when we are dealing with our emotions.  Most of the times we have the tendency to suppress certain emotions, because, it feels so uncomfortable and very yucky (yes, I said yucky).  Instead, we may distract ourselves with other things to gain temporary relief.  But, then loneliness will begin to rear its ugly little head again.  Then we repeat the same cycle of feeling the uncomfortable emotions, suppressing the emotions, and seek temporary relief. What if that ache is pointing you to something that you have been ignoring that can lead you to the clues of the love that you truly desire?

As a single woman I know and understand the feelings/desires of wanting to be in a true meaningful romantic relationship.  Also, I could have been in a relationship already, but, I know what it means not to settle. There was a time when I thought I was destined to be single.  I don’t mean to come across as being single is a life sentence, lol.  But, that was becoming my mind-set at that particular time; and the possibility of remaining single seemed to be in my favor. At that time, I couldn’t see the possibility of being in a romantic relationship that I truly desired or the other option would be to settle in an unhappy relationship.  There were times, when the stings of loneliness felt heavier than others.

Thankfully, the more I grew in self-love those aches began to lessen.  The desire to be in a true meaningful romantic relationships seemed very possible, and, the anxiety around it faded away.  Also, the amazing side effects of self-love gave me a different perspective of love, relationships, and realize the infinite possibilities of my overall life.  Currently, I’m in a place in my life that I’m grateful for those aches of loneliness, because, it led me to a deeper self-discovery of myself and on the path of self-love.  If I had continued to ignore those aches, which, are signs that try to get our attention.  My life would probably sound like replays of sad sappy old love songs.  The aches of loneliness requires you [us] to take a deeper look at yourself and its asking you [us] to get real, raw, and honest about what we truly want and desire in your [our] life to see favorable results.

My challenge(s) for you, the next time when the ache of loneliness shows up in your life, do not shy away from it.

– What is that ache showing you or pointing to?

– What if that ache is helping you uncover the true beauty that already resides within you?

– When you go towards the ache, it begins to lose its power it has over your life.

Sometimes those aches can be used against you by keeping you in your comfort zone.  Because, you are always avoiding and not facing it.  The more you continue to bury yours emotions, the harder it can be to see new possibilities. Going towards the ache, is stepping out of your comfort zone that can lead you closer to the experience (s) that you desire.  I must admit that it takes a lot of courage to face the things that makes us uncomfortable, but, that is the only way to truly overcome fears. It is beautiful gift that is wrapped up in a hideous wrapping paper (I know, weird analogy).  Instead of treating your ache of loneliness as your arch-enemy, it can become your best ally in LOVE!

If you are ready to get out of your comfort zone to explore something new.  Please don’t hesitate to schedule a complimentary love assessment (30 mins) with me.

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Are You In Love Limbo?

Hello Beautiful People!

I am a Certified Creative Love ™ Coach and my overall goal is to help clients to grow more in SELF-LOVE in order for them to gain more clarity in life, love, and relationships.  If you are a single man or woman who is exhausted playing the date game and ready for a true meaningful romantic relationship; and refuse to settle, because, you know that TRUE LOVE IS POSSIBLE!  It can be emotionally exhausting where other areas in your life are flourishing, except in the area of LOVE.  Or if you have seen some improvements, however, you feel like there is some hidden residue(s) that is keeping you in love limbo…

Are You In Love Limbo…

* Have you given up on love, due to past failed relationships?

* Do you desire to be in a romantic relationship, however, a part of you is afraid of getting hurt again?

* Do you tend to self-sabotage relationships when it becomes serious?

* The thought of having a true meaningful romantic relationship seems unrealistic, and tend to settle for less than what you are worth?

* Do you think it’s impossible to receive/welcome love, because you been single for a long time?

* Are you successful/accomplished in other areas in your life, and seem to put your love life on the back burner?

* Are you tired of the same type of person (e.g. emotionally unavailable) keeps showing up in your life; and sometimes you feel like something is wrong with you?

* Are you ready to make changes but don’t know where to begin?

If you resonated with any of the following statements, please do not hesitate to sign up for your complimentary love assessment (30 mins).  This exploratory call can help you to begin to uncover the hidden areas that may be hindering your LOVE growth.  It’s time to make your LOVE life a priority!

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Creating A Love Space

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Are you a single individual who would like be in a romantic relationship, however, you feel like your lifestyle maybe hindering your love life?  Regardless of your employment status, whether you are juggling multiple jobs, work long hours, experience ongoing business trips, or an entrepreneur.  I want to invite you to take a REAL CLOSE LOOK at your life and ask yourself, is there a space for LOVE?  Ask yourself, “Do I make time & space for everyone else and tend to put myself on the back burner more often than you should?  If you answered “Yes”, you may have fantasized, romanticized, or kept your fingers crossed for your ideal romantic partner to stroll into your life or fall into your lap.

*NEWS FLASH!*  Even if that did happen, would you be READY for love if it showed up at your door, right now?  Really think about it (seriously, really think about it?).  I’m sure your immediate response would be a “Yes” or few responses with “maybes”.  Unless, you have already created that love space then you can probably imagine the possibility of love entering your life.  However, if you haven’t created a love space that does not mean you can’t welcome love in your life.

You may be wondering, Shana what are you talking about a “love space“?  Do you mean that I have to go out of space to seek love, because some of the relationships here on Earth are crappy… No, that is not what I mean by love space.  It is simply reviewing your life based on your day-to-day activities.  Based on those activities, is there a room or space for a romantic relationship that you desire.  I can assume that most of the responses will be “no”.  Because, nowadays most people live their lives on autopilot and rarely check-in with themselves on how they are living.  Living life on autopilot can seem pretty mundane and predictable: get up, go to work, work some more, go home, sleep, and start the same thing all over again the next day.  That’s just one example, but, I hope that you get the point.

I have a love suggestion, if you are a single individual who would like to experience being in a true and loving meaningful relationship.  Why not start CREATING that space NOW!  Not tomorrow, one day, or someday; but NOW!   Start making the adjustments NOW!, so you don’t have to make adjustments later when that special someone shows up in your life.  You see, desiring to be in a romantic relationship begins with YOU! I know it seems ironic and paradoxical, but, I have found this to be true.  Especially, in my own life and people I know who are in romantic meaningful relationships.

How Can I Start CREATING A Love Space?

  • Take a HONEST personal inventory of your life, currently (Try not dig too deep into the past, be present)
  • Once you finished with your personal inventory, don’t beat yourself up or judge yourself.  If you can’t resist “beating up yourself”, do it with a feather.
  • Think of 1-3 things that you can do immediately create a love space, and then do it!
  • Examples for creating a Love Space: Self-Care (e.g. enjoy your favorite hobby, do something that you enjoy a.k.a ( “me” time).
  • If you are a social butterfly: what areas or ways you can slow down or give yourself permission to RELAX.
  • If you are a shy butterfly: consider participating or go to a social setting (does not have to be a big crowd). For example, a book club, art exhibit, or a sporting event and etc.  Think of anything that may stretch you a little bit out of your comfort zone to break up any mundane routines in your life to welcome something new.

If you feel stuck, don’t know how to create a love space, or where to begin.  Please sign up for my complimentary love assessment (30mins).  Don’t leave your love life on autopilot!

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