What if that break up you experienced, was a blessing in disguise? In the midst of that separation, you may have felt confused, hurt, and probably held a hopeless outlook of your LOVE life. Especially, if you felt like you invested a lot of time and energy into that relationship. Whether or not you were blindsided, foresaw, or initiated the break up; it’s not an easy emotional adjustment. While you are going through the emotional roller-coaster, try not to beat yourself up of multiple reasons that lead to the ending of the relationship. I know what I’m saying is “easier said than done”; but, hear me out. What if you changed your personal story around those EMOTIONS that you are feeling. You cannot change the outcome of the break up; however, you can CHANGE how you look at your situation. Have I gotten your attention, yet? If so, good! If not, continue to read.
How many times are you rehearsing, replaying the same thoughts in your mind of what happened? Are you silently torturing yourself with questions that are left unanswered; have you tried to rationalize the break up, if I would have done this different, maybe… (you fill in the blanks); or the ongoing inner dialogue of “should of, could of, would of”? Or maybe you are attached to your personal story “I’m never going to find another person like him/her.”; and you may feel like your Love life is DOOMED! Because, you believe (base on your personal story) that ONE person was the ONLY ONE that has the ability to LOVE you? Well, I say that’s a bunch of B.S.! B.S. meaning your Belief System, in regards to LOVE and relationships. It safe to assume that a person with a belief system that doesn’t reflect a HOPEFUL outlook; it’s possible to develop a tinted view of LOVE and relationships. If you can begin to change the story around your emotions maybe you can see a silver lining of this seemingly disappointment.
- What if, the break up was an opportunity for you to get back in touch with yourself, to rediscover the real YOU? It could be a personal “Time Out” (in a good way).
- Maybe that door had to close, in order for new one to open.
- It can be an opportunity to grow more in SELF-LOVE, to fall more in LOVE with yourself!
Instead of counting your loss, count your BLESSINGS!
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