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         5 “AHA” Moments From My Whirlwind Weekend!

1) Expect The Unexpected

“It’s better to be prepared for an opportunity and not have one than to have an opportunity and not be prepared” ~Whitney M Young

My whirlwind weekend began with a simple phone conversation with a close friend of mine. This opportunity came about from seconds of hanging up the phone when I asked “what are you doing next weekend, are you working?”.  My friend asked if I was available to help with her event in Oakland,CA and I said “Yes, I’m available!”. The next thing you know, the following weekend I’m on the plane to California to support my friend,connecting with AMAZING women, deepening my friendship bond, and enjoying the San Francisco scenery.

The moral of this experience is, when opportunity knocks open the door.  If the opportunity that is presented to you feels right, don’t get too caught up in the “HOW”.  Also, don’t be afraid to say YES to yourself. 

2) Residue of Self-Sabotage…Exposing My Hidden Blind Spots 
This is where I experienced most of my “aha” moments. When you have supportive friends in your life, they will tell you the TRUTH with tough love (in my case).  Not the “harsh truth”, just enough fire underyour tail to wake you up a bit. My friend and I had a great deep discussion, and realized certain aspects of myself risen to the surface– residues of self-sabotage. In that moment she helped me to become aware of my blind spots. Especially, in the area of how approach my business.  Though I’ve made progress and growth in this area.  At times, I’m still playing small, not honoring my worth, and drowning out my own voice through the voices of others.


It’s great to have supportive people in your life who want to see you grow and prosper. They are not afraid to give you “though love” when necessary, which, can cause inspired actions to help you move forward. 


3) Be PRESENT… Go With The Flow 

This was one of the major lessons that I learned from the time I arrived to San Francisco till my departure. Literally, from beginning to end this was my underlying message. When I landed at San Francisco airport, “MY PLAN” was to meet up with a good friend (Atlanta) of mine who lives in Oakland, before heading to the hotel.  Due to time restraints we had to rearrange our plans to possibly reconnect before my short visit.  

I called Uber to pick me up from the airport (SFO) to Oakland, when I got in the car, the driver stated he doesn’t go to Oakland. He cancelled my trip, due to rush hour traffic on the bridge would take about over an hour to CROSS over the bridge. I called my other friend (hosting event) to inform her that I’ll stay in San Francisco and meet at the book tour.  She got us tickets for Danielle LaPorte book tour ( Hot White Truth).  Then afterwards, we took pictures with the author,autographed our books, and tried Brumese food for first time.  

Overall, my only “agenda” I had was get on the plane to California, go to book tour Friday evening, help at friend’s event on Saturday and anything goes from there. The funny thing, my last day in San Francisco, I got up EXTRA EARLY to leave the hotel by 6:30am.  I called an Uber driver that was estimated to arrive around 11 minutes, then it turned int 15 mins, then it turned into another 15 mins and then FINALLY! The driver was arriving 3 mins away, then I received a message that driver CANCELLED my trip and charged me! What!!!! I tried not to be pissed, but, the good thing was that my flight didn’t leave till 10:45am. Thankfully, I was way ahead of schedule.  Fortunately, I got another Uber driver that was already in the area less than 5 minutes and was a pleasant experience.  

Moral of this experience is just go with flow, be present and live in the moment. No need to get bogged down by the past or caught up in the future, because, it can steal the valuable moment of the present.  
4) Time Out, To Tune In 
This whirlwind trip shook up my mundane routine that I needed.  My time in San Francisco was a great balance of work and play.  It was great time for self-reflection to shed light on my current circumstance that shifted my perspective. As a result, I gained deeper insights, clarity, and plans of taking inspired actions.

Sometimes you need to shake up your mundane routine and get out of your comfort zone.  You gain valuable insights that can provide a different perspective or result.  Make sure that you schedule some time for self-care to unplug.  It’s important to take time out, to tune in. 


5) Getting Clarity 

The overall outcome of this whirlwind expedition lead me to CLARITY!  I felt this experience was a sneak peek of my upcoming summer retreat.  This is possibly a taste of the few women can experience on this “island getaway” to get the necessary clarity they need.

If you feel stuck or stagnant implement number 4 on this list. Once you receive the clarity, make sure to take the inspired action (s) that will create a SHIFT within yourself.

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🎭The Mask You Wear 🎭

To mask or unmask… that is question🤔? The PERSONA is the mask that YOU wear. We ALL wear a 🎭 MASK 🎭, it’s our representative that people see and how they PERCEIVE us upon the initial encounter. Based on how YOU want others to perceive you, is the image you’ll PROJECT to the world. The PERSONA we take on is socially acceptable, it’s not something that in unpleasant. The truth is that we all wear a mask, because, it’s a necessity to socially navigate in our society. For some (including myself, initially) didn’t like the notion of that, because, this may imply being “fake”, “inauthentic”, “not being true to yourself”. However, as I examined further of the function of the PERSONA, it began to make more sense. Wearing a mask is not a bad thing per se, however, the difference lies between if a person is conscious vs. unconscious of the MASK they are wearing.   
What “difference lies between … conscious vs. unconscious”? If someone is unconscious (unaware) of the MASK they wear by default they may believe it’s their “true” identity; one who is conscious (Self-Aware) of the MASK they wear knows that it serves as a purpose and it’s not their “real” identity. I hope I didn’t lose you at this point, if so comment below. Hopefully, this makes sense with the aspects of conscious vs. unconscious regarding the PERSONA.

So… how does this relate to the work that I do you maybe wondering🤔?

When meeting someone for the first time our natural tendency is to put our “best foot forward” and making a great “first impression”. When we do this, it’s not being fake, we’re just showcasing or highlighting the best aspect of ourselves. This concept is displayed when going on a job interview or on a first day. As I mentioned previously, the PERSONA is socially acceptable and pleasant. However, if you keep perpetually living from this space to meet other people’s expectations to feel “accepted”, while, suppressing the REAL YOU just to show face. If you are not careful, living life on the surface may result in feelings emptiness, loneliness, boredom, resentment, or emotionally unfulfillment, or come across as “shallow”.

In addition, you maybe hesitant to let certain individuals (good intentions) to get to know you on a core level or get close to you, because, you maybe afraid that if they get to know the REAL YOU, they may not like you or reject you. Therefore, it’s easier to wear a mask to keep up the façade when you first met. Oftentimes, when this happens a person’s insecurities flares up and their SELF-SABOTAGING behaviours may unfold. Which may play out in a form of being deceitful (for self-perseverance), perform disappearing acts (stop call/text/contact) or other knee jerk reactions to keep themselves protected/guarded. These types of behaviours or logic seems twisted, however, it may serve a purpose to the individual. TRUST this is NOT an excuse for a person’s less than ideal actions, however, it’s brief insights of how (unconsciously) self-sabotage or holding yourself back can prevent you from experiencing a greater life & LOVE. Whether it’s with yourself and/or with someone else. Ideally, it’s easier to be authentic if surrounded by others who accepts & allows YOU to BE YOURSELF!

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Day 24 (30 Days Of LOVE Affirmations ™ )

Today’s Affirmation:“I Honor Myself by Speaking the TRUTH with LOVE”

Have you ever dreaded a conversation that was necessary? However, not all conversations carries the tone of “being the bearer of bad news”.  This also pertains sharing exciting information or news (e.g. saying “I love you” to someone). Whether you want to share something that is exciting or uncomfortable, a bit of hesitation can be present when delivering your TRUTH.
In my experience, the challenges that I often encounter are more about HOW should I deliver my TRUTH, rather than expressing WHAT is my TRUTH.

Regardless if you have a challenging time telling your TRUTH (suppressing how you really feel); how to deliver the TRUTH (being tactful, without sugar coating); or receiving the TRUTH ( being in denial)

As cliché as it sounds, the TRUTH really does set you free.  Not carrying around an emotional burden can be released by being truthful.  I usually share with people, you have to be honest with yourself first, before you can be honest with someone else.  At the end of the day, the TRUTH circles back to you.

What do you want? What do want in life? What do you what for yourself?  what do you want in a relationship?
Oftentimes, people have a hard time being truthful with themselves, yet, which makes it more difficult to become vulnerable with someone.  In order to grow in this area, the TRUTH begins with you

LOVE Nuggets
–  As long as you are sharing or expressing your TRUTH from a place of LOVE…that’s all you need.

– Telling or hearing the TRUTH can be painful in the moment, yet, it’s better than an lie.
– Embrace your authentic self it’s a way to honoring your truth. 

– Telling the TRUTH can liberating, which can teach you to let go of fear, judgement, or rejection from others and yourself.

– Remember to let your TRUTH be accompanied with LOVE in every situation.

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WHO AM I … WHO ARE YOU!

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LOVE is my mission! I was Created in LOVE, therefore LOVE lives inside me, I Embody LOVE.  I want to help people to remember who they are, because, sometimes we can easily forget.

When life throws us curves balls, or takes us on a wild ride with unexpected turns, or it feels like your life is twisted up like pretzel. In those moments we have the tendency to forgot who we are, what we are made of, where we came from … LOVELOVE is transformative; it can TRANSFORM a person from the inner depths of their being from the inside-out. This is where True LOVE Transformation resides. This kind of love lives inside each of us — SELF-LOVE!

Some people can have a poor perception of LOVE.  They may feel like love does not exist, love cannot be attained, or think they are unable to love again. When the TRUTH is that LOVE is always here! Some of us have fallen asleep and need a re-awakening to LOVE.  Because that’s who we ALL are … We are LOVE!

P.S. Remember YOU LOVED & LOVABLE, especially, in the moments you may not feel that way.

Love & Gratitude,

love  heart Shana

SONG OF THE DAY
SONG OF THE DAY

Song of the Day: Anthony Hamilton- “Everybody” Please click on the link to enjoy this song.