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🎭The Mask You Wear 🎭

To mask or unmask… that is question🤔? The PERSONA is the mask that YOU wear. We ALL wear a 🎭 MASK 🎭, it’s our representative that people see and how they PERCEIVE us upon the initial encounter. Based on how YOU want others to perceive you, is the image you’ll PROJECT to the world. The PERSONA we take on is socially acceptable, it’s not something that in unpleasant. The truth is that we all wear a mask, because, it’s a necessity to socially navigate in our society. For some (including myself, initially) didn’t like the notion of that, because, this may imply being “fake”, “inauthentic”, “not being true to yourself”. However, as I examined further of the function of the PERSONA, it began to make more sense. Wearing a mask is not a bad thing per se, however, the difference lies between if a person is conscious vs. unconscious of the MASK they are wearing.   
What “difference lies between … conscious vs. unconscious”? If someone is unconscious (unaware) of the MASK they wear by default they may believe it’s their “true” identity; one who is conscious (Self-Aware) of the MASK they wear knows that it serves as a purpose and it’s not their “real” identity. I hope I didn’t lose you at this point, if so comment below. Hopefully, this makes sense with the aspects of conscious vs. unconscious regarding the PERSONA.

So… how does this relate to the work that I do you maybe wondering🤔?

When meeting someone for the first time our natural tendency is to put our “best foot forward” and making a great “first impression”. When we do this, it’s not being fake, we’re just showcasing or highlighting the best aspect of ourselves. This concept is displayed when going on a job interview or on a first day. As I mentioned previously, the PERSONA is socially acceptable and pleasant. However, if you keep perpetually living from this space to meet other people’s expectations to feel “accepted”, while, suppressing the REAL YOU just to show face. If you are not careful, living life on the surface may result in feelings emptiness, loneliness, boredom, resentment, or emotionally unfulfillment, or come across as “shallow”.

In addition, you maybe hesitant to let certain individuals (good intentions) to get to know you on a core level or get close to you, because, you maybe afraid that if they get to know the REAL YOU, they may not like you or reject you. Therefore, it’s easier to wear a mask to keep up the façade when you first met. Oftentimes, when this happens a person’s insecurities flares up and their SELF-SABOTAGING behaviours may unfold. Which may play out in a form of being deceitful (for self-perseverance), perform disappearing acts (stop call/text/contact) or other knee jerk reactions to keep themselves protected/guarded. These types of behaviours or logic seems twisted, however, it may serve a purpose to the individual. TRUST this is NOT an excuse for a person’s less than ideal actions, however, it’s brief insights of how (unconsciously) self-sabotage or holding yourself back can prevent you from experiencing a greater life & LOVE. Whether it’s with yourself and/or with someone else. Ideally, it’s easier to be authentic if surrounded by others who accepts & allows YOU to BE YOURSELF!

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Day 8 (30 Days Of LOVE Affirmations ™ )

Today’s Affirmation: ” I Am Worthy of LOVE and I Clearly See Myself With The Person Of My Dreams”
  

Before I became a Certified Creative Love® Coach I was not aware (unconscious) that I had a mindset that I was not worthy or deserving of LOVE.  It was hard for me to believe that this thought was playing in the background of my life. Fortunately, I became of aware this blindspot with the help of my LOVE coach that led my on the path of SELF-LOVE.  

I now see that I am worthy and deserving of the LOVE I want to see in my life.  I constantly visualize the LOVE I desire and see myself in a romantic relationship.  Not only do I see it, I feel how real it is as well.  I believe that this LOVE is POSSIBLE for me.  Also, I believe that this LOVE is POSSIBLE for YOU!


Couple’s LOVE Affirmation: “My Relationship Is Filled With LOVE, Honesty, Pleasure, and Wholeness.”

  

Every romantic relationship can use use a little spice in thier LOVE life from time-to-time.  There is nothing wrong of finding ways to enhance your LOVE life, regardless if your relationship status whether it is new or seasoned veterans.  Saying this affirmation or create your own version can take your LOVE life to the next level.  

LOVE Nuggets

  • Feel free to come up with your own LOVE affirmation or interchange words that works best for you.
  • Remember that there is more to repetition, getting in the FEELING is a very key ingredient.  
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                           The Benefits of Working with a LOVE Coach


I remember when I felt like there was no momentum in my love life.  I started to feel like something was “wrong with me”, because, I never experienced being in real romantic relationship.  I went on dates, experienced a pseudo relationship (we’re more than friends, but, it’s not really a relationship, kind of sort of), received unrequited “love”, and being in the “friend zone.”  Can you relate to this?  Despite, those experiences I remained hopeful about love.  At that time, I was really focused on completing my graduate degree, thinking about my future career, and as a byproduct I put my love life on the back burner.  Hoping that “one day” love will magically fall into my lap.

When I moved to Hawai’i, I was ready and willing to live life differently.  I began to assess my love life and decided that I needed to take a different approach.  When I made that decision and love became my priority, opportunity knocked on my heart.  I’m reminded by this Zen quote “when the student is ready, the teacher will appear.”  That’s what happened to me, my love coach appeared!  Which was the beginning of rewriting my love story.

It can be frustrating when other areas in your life is flourishing, except in the area of love.  You probably tried the self-help books, affirmations, friends/family and etc.  I’m not minimizing these resources, because, I continue to implement them in my life.  I’m sure that you have experienced some improvements, however, there are hidden residues that are keeping you stuck in love.  In the area of love and relationships most people think this is something that will happen automatically.  This is a common misconception, which most individuals may think it’s not necessary to put any time, attention, or effort to nurture their love life.  Interestingly, it’s common to put time, attention, and efforts in other areas of your life ( e.g. career,education, money, and etc.).  Why not give the same attention to your love life? Why leave it up chance?

What if you could uncover what is really keeping the love you desire at a distance?  Unconsciously, you are not allowing love in your life.  This is where I come in to help you navigate the areas that’s preventing you to receive the love that you desire. It’s time to make LOVE your priority!

The Benefits…

Coaching is not therapy or counseling, it a less formal approach to examine your love life.

•    A love coach can help you to obtain a clear vision  for your love life.  
•    Provide support and guidance that will help you to get focus to reach your desired goal.
•    Once you open up yourself to love, you will see the infinite possibilities!
•    The more you grow in self-love, you view love and relationships in a different way.

If you are ready to take your LOVE to the next level, schedule your FREE Love Assessment.  Please watch this video to learn more of the benefits of working with a love coach.